Mental Health & Wellbeing

Never underestimate the power of a hug

Never Underestimate the Power of a Hug

I’ve been popping around to see an elderly neighbour on a fairly regular basis for some years now.  She’s a crotchety old thing. Looks older than she is and is very very lonely.  And often very very sad.  Initially I popped in and helped with a bit of gardening. Soon it became clear it was more about the company; half an hour of chat.  More recently it’s also been about helping her sort out the complexities of modern-day life such as getting the best deals on insurance, phones, gas and electric.  Gone are the days when good customers were rewarded with the newest and best deals; these days only the new customers get them and if you don’t shop around you’ll get screwed over.  She was being screwed over by everyone.

One day I was there, she was particularly low and I gave her a hug.  It was a poignant moment, she seemed to soften a little and relax a little.  She couldn’t remember the last time it had happened.  Now I hug her goodbye and give her a peck on the cheek every time I visit.

Never underestimate the power of human contact.  A smile; a touch; a few kind words…

I wrote the above some years ago.  This lovely old lady has since died.  I was there with her when she did, and then I arranged her funeral and helped sort out her estate.  Since then I’ve trained as an End-of-Life Doula.

That is one of the ripples she made in the sea of her life.



Here’s another old blog from 2016 that talks about hugs!

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