I’ve created a comprehensive guide.
We are often so reticent about talking or planning for our care, death and what happens after we are gone.
Or perhaps we feel we’ve been super organised and put everything in place, only to not have discussed our plans with those who will be left to administer them.
“Berni lives life fully immersed in the absolute requirements to be putting a book such as this out into the world. People, death, grief and creating funerals.
Nobody gets out alive! Death is a certainty and for a long time the majority haven’t wanted to think about it. But this attitude is changing and Berni has been one of the drivers, squirrelling away on this.”
Regret, guilt, shock are massive destructive emotions that often accompany loss. These type of emotions make an already traumatic journey, even tougher to navigate.
The key is in communication
Yet we are often afraid to brooch the subject with our older relatives. Maybe we fear we will be perceived as money grabbers, wanting to talk about their estates? Often we assume that it will upset someone to raise the subject of dying, as if it has never occurred to our aging family that the time will come.
Usually we assume that there will always be a bbetter time. Or more time.
How often do I hear a family tell me a death came as a shock despite the deceased having been ill for a long time, or reaching a ripe old age. Denial is a common thing with life. We are not taught how to approach death.
Yet it is an inevitable for all of us. A common connection we all share. Whether we are rich or poor, adventurous or cautious. Active or couch potatoes. In the end there will be an end. It is a leveller that unites us all.
And then there’s the unexpected. The out of the natural order of things. The sudden deaths or accidents way before we might have begun considering the ‘what if we’re not around anymore.
It sounds morbid. But its not . Not really. Its part of life, unexpected things happen and natural aging happens… we’ll all get there in the end
“When mum or dad dies, many people feel trapped by fear and loss, they panic or shut down. All too often a funeral is arranged in this state of mind (some even going through with direct cremations without a service at all) and some time after there are regrets, delayed grief and ongoing emotional dis-ease that can cause no end of problems and illness. Berni brings her vast experience to bear on this incredibly important aspect of life.”
Empowering and Enlightening
My book, My Life, My Death, My Wishes is not a morose doom and gloom read.
It is an empowering, enlightening, weight lifting guide that directs the reader to resources, and choice.
More importantly, perhaps, it encourages and helps facilitate planning and conversation.
Being prepared alleviates fear. Communication, dispels doubt. Openness quashes regret.
Filled with powerful quotes, beautiful poems and space after each thought proviking section, to document your own feelings; this guide will expand your options. It will guide you through processes and it will provide you with options you may not have considered.
Most importantly, it will provide those you love with the tools, information and confidence they need to ensure your care is at the forefront of every discission. And you will know that they have what they need to help them process your loss and navigate life without you present.
“This book will get conversations within families started, will empower people to make choices and help that majority come to live more fully with death, and that can only ever be a healthier future for all.”
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