Death Planning: ©DIY Before You Die
Why aren’t we death planning? We all know that death is inevitable. As a funeral celebrant I encourage families to talk about death and ensure our wishes, and their affects on those expected to carry them out, are understood
Yet we often remain reluctant to think about it or discuss it before it becomes an issue
Quite often we leave it too late in the belief we have plenty of time
We think talking about it and planning for it might tempt fate
Yet discussing and documenting what you want and how your loved ones feel about your ideas really makes your loss less ‘complicated’
Those left behind deserve to know for sure what you want, how you feel and what they should do
I’m here to facilitate those difficult conversations
I give you the time, space , information and tools to PRE-PLAN for the inevitable
End of Life Doula Services
As an end-of-life doula I work with people as they or someone they love, is approaching end of life. I’m a companion, care giver, advocate, communicator, administrator. Sometimes I’m a gardener, cook, cleaner, driver. I am there to help navigate life and help those dying retain some control, quality and dignity in the final stages of life.
Funerals, Memorials, Life Celebrations
I pride myself in being a great listener, and, more importantly, I hear clearly the messages and information, both spoken and unspoken, that are being conveyed.. Its important, as an end of life celebrant to give you enough time as you share your memories and emotions. I can then create a service with the mood and content needed; not only to fulfil the wishes of the deceased; but also to ensure you say goodbye in a way that helps you begin your grieving process. I give you the permissions and reassurances you need to feel exactly how you feel – be that numb, sad, angry, confused or anything else. Grief is a personal journey. Let me help you take the first steps by offering you guidance and support to set you on the long road ahead.
“(Berni’s) professionalism is second to none and I don’t think that there are enough words to describe how grateful we all are that she was there to guide us through the process ” – July 2021
People often don’t realise the strength of emotion and the grief that can come from losing a cherished pet. If you’ve lost your dearest dog, cat, horse (or any animal) friend, then the feelings can be as strong as those of losing a human. Time to reflect is important. Your dog, cat, horse or whatever animal friend, was certainly more than a pet, they were part of your family.
Bernie is an amazing person, she is kind, caring, informative, compassionate and inspirational. I would thoroughly recommend her, – July 2021
Berni B: The Alternative Celebrant : What are my core values?
💖 Authenticity & Sincerity 💖 Compassion & Empathy 💖 Advocacy & Support 💖 Creativity & Flexibility 💖 Love & Passion
I’m Berni B, an Authentically Alternative Celebrant, Artist & Venue hostess: I create, ‘no rules’ celebrations & commemorations of life. Telling your stories in your own unique way. In the belief that every individual is ordinarily extraordinary and all of life’s chapters are worth bookmarking.